23 The C word

It's the phone call you dread ever getting and hope never happens to you. The world seems to stop still for a moment, while you struggle to comprehend what you're hearing. Your sobs kick in and you're crying before it even really registers that the most beloved person in the world, the one you always thought was invincible has said "I'm very sick. I have cancer and the doctors say it's aggressive"
Journal excerpt, December 2011

Before my mum was diganosed, I never really knew how prevalent breast cancer was - one in every eight women are diagnosed with some form of the disease. We caught it early; following a few months of treatment mum is officially in remission and we're celebrating with our family in New York right now. We all feel very lucky. 


The treatment was hard for all of us. Nothing can really prepare you for watching someone you love be treated for such an aggressive disease in such an invasive way. An amazing person I know - E. - shared this advice, and I returned to it time and time again while I was in Australia supporting my mum and sister:

Just remember to allow yourself to feel what you feel with no judgments
Allow yourself breaks...emotionally as well as physically
Accept help
Allow yourself to be a daughter
Allow your mum to be your mother
But most important to remember is that nothing you are feeling or doing is wrong. Do not beat yourself up for anything during this difficult time.

October is Breast Cancer Awareness month - take the time to hug every woman you love a little tighter, remember the women who fought a courageous battle (and those who love them) and reflect on what's really important to you and make it happen so you can live life every day a little happier.

From New York, with love xox

23 comments:

Lucent Imagery said...

Oh this got me choked up. I'm so so happy for you and your family that you are all together now having fun in New York. Mums are precious. Seeing her laughter in the second photo is just beautiful. And she just rocks short hair! She looks so glamorous! xx

THE ALTERNATIVE WIFE said...

I have chills after reading this. So happy that she is in remission. She looks beautiful and so full of life. Enjoy your time celebrating together. There's so much to cherish and celebrate :) xoxo

Angela said...

I am so happy to hear that your mum is in remission. So happy. Sending all of you my love xx

Maria said...

It's so good to hear that your mom is in remission. I can't even imagine what it must be like to go through something like that! You're all so strong for sticking through it together.

Maria xx

paisleysummer said...

What a tough time you have all been through.
I'm praying that your mum's remission is lasting and glad you are enjoying a lovely time together in New York.
It's absurd how it sometimes takes something like this to appreciate the important things in life.
Love to you all xx

Eliza Jane said...

This post hits so close to home, and made me tear up. Thank you for sharing, and I'm glad your mum's ok.

Making Me Smile said...

I'm so very glad you're mum is in remission, it's wonderful news! It truly does make us take stock of our lives when a loved one is sick. Hope you're all having a fabulous time in NYC! x

Chocolate Cookies & Candies said...

This brings a tear to my eye. I remember the fear that pierced through my heart when I received a phone call that my father was diagnosed with prostate cancer. We were lucky that it was caught in its early stages but I'm grateful each day that my loved ones are safe and healthy.

Eve.H said...

I´m so happy to hear your mum feels better :) My mum also had this scare some seven years ago and I remember how hard it was for me before she was opearated and doctors found out it was just a cyst. I tell her I love her every now and then and I try to do things with her; like chatting over a cup of tea in the evening as much as I can. So thank you for the reminder, I´ll definitely do it tonight ;) I wish your mum to be healthy and strong.
xx Eve.h

Hena Tayeb said...

It is wonderful to see you mom is doing better and is in remission. It really is such a scary thing. I have had five members of my not immediate family affected by cancer and only two survived it.

About Last Weekend said...

What fabulous piccies of you all enjoying yourself!
That's all great advice and I'm sending this onto my friend (male) who has cancer. Until he got it I didn't realise how devastating the treatment was. One in five to one in seven women get breast cancer here, depending where you live along the Bay, frightening...

Kristina said...

So true and a great quote! Happy to hear that your mom is doing fine! This is a bad and vicous disease... All the best, Kristina

Sam said...

Aww this is such a heartfelt post, I am happy to hear that your mum is well now and I hope she continues to build on her strength and health. You are the most thoughtful and benevolent daughter to have been there for your mum thought that difficult time, it couldn't have been easy on her and it couldn't have been easy on you either. You are also the brave one here, not just your mum. I loved reading those words of support, I will remember them. Big Hug sweetie!

Sunny & Star said...

This post was so touching. I am so glad your mom is in remission. Stories like this always make me think of my family and how lucky we are. There have been several relatives who have battled cancer in some form in my family in the past few years and we have been fortunate enough that they have pulled through.
I was stopping by to let you know I tweeted about your California post today!

jamie-lee said...

I hadn't realised how common breast cancer can be - and must say i ma happy to hear your mum has recovered and is in remission! x

Anna said...

Hope this is beautiful, YOU are beautiful, thank you for sharing such a powerful, personal story for such a worthy cause. I wasn't aware until Vienna that it was Breast Cancer month when we were walking past the Parliament there and they have put a hugeeeee breast cancer ribbon across their parliament - an ode I thought that was very amazing & worthwhile.
The joy emulating from the photos you shared above are simply beautiful & how glad I am that this is how your story turned out. Your mum is clearly an incredibly strong woman but the support & love from your obvious close family would have helped more than any of us will ever realise.
My Auntie has had breast Cancer & my nanna had breast cancer (both survivors - our family are fighters too) so to say this post touched my heart & made me shed some tears is an understatement. Thank you again for the beautiful reminder Hope xxx

Rowena @ rolala loves said...

It's sobering that this devastating disease has become so prevalent. Thank you for sharing your heartfelt story with us. I'm so glad your mom is in remission and that she has had such an incredible support system to get her through her treatment. It's obvious from these photos how close your family is. Enjoy your time celebrating life and love.

Rowena @ rolala loves

Vanisha @ Vanishas Life In...Australia said...

How beautiful your mum looks in these pictures. We lost a number of loved ones to breast cancer and it's difficult each and every time. Awareness, education and information are so very important xoxox

Emily | Recently said...

Your mum is so beautiful! Congrats to her and your family on her remission and coming out stronger after all you've been through!

Dearne Sutherland said...

What a heartfelt post, it brought a tear to my eye! My friend was diagnosed with breast cancer at 28 years old which was a scary reminder that it can happen at any age. Wishing you and your lovely family all the best. De x

SazzJK said...

Good to see you all smiling and happy - that's what makes you strong and helps you get through life's toughest times! Stay strong, never give up and YAY to family - they are the most important people - ever!! Boom.

Jenee C. said...

Your mum is such a beautiful woman and thank you so much for sharing such a personal tale. That piece of advice could be applied to so many occasions, I think I may just copy it down. Sending lots of happy thoughts your way. Hugs.

xx Jenee C.
{camo meets couture}

Lindsay K said...

My eyes are tearing up. This is such a heartfelt post, thank you for sharing with all of us. So happy to know that your mom is OK and that your family was here to celebrate. I'm so close to my parents and brothers and just can't imagine if anything happened to them.

Beautiful pictures of all of them. Especially your mom. What an AMAZING WOMAN!

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